Why I Don’t Chase.....Not Love, Not Vibes, Not Opportunities

I don’t chase anymore. Not love. Not people. Not jobs. Not energy that feels off.

Not because I’m arrogant. Not because I don’t care. But because I’ve finally learned to trust what doesn’t sit right with me. Every time I’ve gone against my intuition just to give someone the benefit of the doubt or “see where it goes,” it’s cost me peace I didn’t need to lose.

I’ve ignored the discomfort. I’ve silenced the knowing. And every single time, I’ve regretted it.

So now? I listen.

If it doesn’t feel aligned, I won’t entertain it. If it drains me, I won’t explain it. If it makes me question my worth, I walk away from it. I don’t chase closure. I don’t chase people. I don’t chase opportunities that require me to beg, bend, or break.

Let’s be real. Learning to trust myself hasn’t been easy. For a long time, I didn’t know if the voice I was hearing was wisdom or fear. Was it intuition, or was it old survival habits dressed up in anxiety? When you’ve grown up constantly adapting, you don’t always know the difference.

But I’m figuring it out. And what I’ve learned is this: peace doesn’t come from control. It comes from clarity. It comes from honoring the version of me that refuses to abandon herself just to be accepted.

I used to think if I worked hard enough, gave enough, proved enough, I could keep people from leaving or keep things from falling apart. But I’ve outgrown that version of me.

I can’t control who values me. I can’t force someone to love me right. I can’t micromanage divine timing. All I can control is how I show up, how I move, and what I no longer tolerate.

I don’t chase anymore. I align. I attract. I receive. If something is meant for me, it will move with clarity, not chaos. And if it costs me my peace, it’s not mine to carry.

What About You?
What’s something you’ve been chasing that deep down, you know you’ve outgrown? What would change if you stopped chasing and started choosing?

That Said: Your intuition has never been wrong, you just weren’t ready to listen. Stop running after what doesn’t feel right. What’s real won’t require you to lose yourself.

Heal & Hustle

~A